Introduction

It has come to my attention that information about my split-up with whimsical-wife has been freely circulating around in public on Newgrounds and in some Discord servers. While I have tried my best to keep this private and move on, it seems that her intent is neither to keep it private nor to move on. I am therefore forced to publish my side of the events, to defend my reputation on Newgrounds and elsewhere.

You can choose whether to believe me or not at your own discretion. Hell, it's up to you whether you even read this. But I am putting it out there for those who want the answers.

People This Post Is About

• whimsical-wife
• Doumierstar
• Yosos
• EmsDeLaRoZ
• Creeperforce24

Timeline of Events

• December 13, 2023 - The beginning of the end. I announced the Pokémon Mystery Meat Collab, which had been my idea but would be co-hosted by whimsical-wife.
• December 2023 thru February 2024 - I tried programming a game to showcase the Pokémon Mystery Meat entries. The project I had in mind wound up being much too complex for my skills as a beginning game dev.
• March 2024 - Who’s That Pokémeat was published. The game was hurriedly put together by EmsDeLaRoZ and whimsical-wife. Effectively, I did nothing for this, as I was still trying to work on my larger game.
• March thru May 2024 - I kept trying to work on my larger Pokémon Mystery Meat game. It became increasingly clear that I wasn’t cut out for this, but whimsical-wife was creating a lore comic for the game, and as such, she freaked out every time I thought of quitting or altering the game project to something more doable. This led to quite a lot of stress and tension between us, on top of everything else that was going on.
• At the same time - Friendship with whimsical-wife and Doumierstar continued, mainly in a Discord group chat between the three of us. WW would unexpectedly get jumpy at things I said/did and I would be left scrambling to find out what was wrong, as she would clam up or run away, only making things worse. I became increasingly stressed about keeping her happy and preventing things like this. I noticed as well that the two of them were getting closer to each other than to me, calling each other “my evil twin” and similar things in front of me, and I felt like I had been shoved into a platonic third wheel position, if not casually vilified for the times I disagreed with her. This was all exacerbated by a role play we had going on at the time, in which I felt like I was being judged out-of-character for my actions as evil characters in the game.
• May 29, 2024 - The day before I started my summer job at Target, I knew I had to do something to clear my head so that I wouldn’t be stressed at work. At the time, I had joined both the Creature Collab and the Pokémon Gijinka Collab, and that morning I got into an argument with some people on the former server who were dunking on the latter collab. While not in a good headspace from that, I tried writing up a note saying that I wanted a temporary break from whimsical-wife’s group chat so I could feel better. My plan was to send the messages while WW was away, and then slip away to let her read them when she got back. However, in the middle of me doing so, she appeared and things quickly escalated into a fight. She called me something like “a sad little creature”, and I called her “fragile” and told her that she hadn’t allowed me to be myself, a statement I still stand by. She said something vague about “how you treat me”, declared things over, and kicked me out of the friend group’s server.
• Shortly afterwards - Because Doumier had taken whimsical-wife’s side in most of the arguments we had had, and because I saw them as prioritizing each other over me, I was afraid that Doumier would chew me out for arguing with WW, and so I also blocked her.
• Summer 2024 - I made the mistake of complaining about whimsical-wife behind her back a few times on Newgrounds. I have no excuse for this, it was done just out of petty anger. I like to think that I learned pretty quickly from that.
• Fall-Winter 2024 - Over time, I also noticed that more and more people I liked were becoming friends with whimsical-wife and sporting profile pictures she drew. Seeing as she had talked freely about her previous ex-friends to me, I couldn’t help but wonder how much these people had heard about me.
• October 30 2024 - whimsical-wife made a thread about the game Mouthwashing. This is seemingly unimportant, but it influenced the way she and Yosos presented themselves on Discord, and from there, how I reacted to it. The important thing about this game is that there is a supposedly absolute victim/perpetrator dynamic between the characters. My mental health started taking a nosedive the more and more I mentally associated the game and its fandom with her and what I thought she thought of me.
• November-December 2024 - Three separate mutual friends: EmsDeLaRoZ, Yosos, and Creeperforce24, all contacted me separately and put pressure on me to apologize and be friends again with whimsical-wife. I told each of them “no” and cited my reasons for believing the friendship wasn’t going to work, with varying levels of anger. They ferried screenshots of the conversation back and forth without permission from either me or whimsical-wife. All three have since been blocked because I cannot trust them to respect my privacy.
• December 4, 2024 - Another, more level-headed friend, who will remain anonymous to protect them, sent me a holiday fanart that whimsical-wife made of Theta without my permission. This is what made it clear to me that she had no intention of moving on from our split-up. I had a conversation with this friend about what happened, and they agreed not to take sides or send screenshots. I cannot stress enough how much I appreciate that.
• December 21, 2024 - With help from my therapist, I wrote up a note acknowledging WW's forgiveness of me, but also explaining why I didn’t believe the friendship was going to work. I apologized for the times I had talked about her behind her back, and urged her to find a therapist. I sent that note through the level-headed mutual friend, because Discord wouldn’t let me send it directly to her. I received a note back from her - in summary, she said that she had gotten medication for her anxiety, and that overall she had changed and was trying to be more honest with her friends instead of clamming up.
• Late December, 2024 - I took this response on the chin very badly, believing that I was morally in the wrong for still having harbored anger towards her. Friends noticed a distinct change in my behavior, including calling myself all kinds of horrible things and claiming that I deserved the worst to happen to me.
• December 27, 2024 - Yosos, still sporting the “Daisuke from Mouthwashing” moniker, seemed to sense the tension easing up, so he re-entered a server that I was in, which he had previously left because of me. This completely threw me for a loop, as I was still in the mindset that I was the worst person to walk the earth. I made an attempt to still be friends with him, though.
• December 28, 2024 - Yosos let slip in various vague ways, without ever saying it directly, that he and whimsical-wife are now in an online relationship. From my experience, couples, especially younger ones, will tell each other everything. I do not want to be spied on, regardless of whether it’s unintentional, so I left the server. This server, for the record, was one that I had built in the beginning as a community for my friends on NG, but I had early on given up the admin role because of how stressful it was.
• End of the Year, 2024 - I have been pinged in several “year in recap” posts that read to me as “whimsical-wife is a wonderful friend and can do no wrong, oh yeah and I was in Theta’s collab too.” I found this aggravating, as it felt like a reminder that I had lost several current and potential friends and was overall not as well-liked on Newgrounds as I used to be. I have turned off notifications for being pinged in news posts for this reason, further isolating myself for my peace of mind. WW’s own year in recap, I might add, also calls Doumier “my evil twin” yet again and implies that being friends with me was a traumatic experience for both of them.

Conclusion

[Edited to remove information that wasn’t public knowledge as previously thought.]

whimsical-wife isn't Jesus, or Anya, or N, or whoever else you think she is. She has too much time on her hands, and is spending that time hoping that I'll miraculously forgive her. She doesn't know what it's like to be juggling creative projects, school or a job, and emotional labor. She completely relies on a friend group of yes-men and a boyfriend who puts her on a pedestal. I doubt that she will ever understand how much I have lost in this fight while she prospers from it.

I am not going to run back to someone I had to do endless emotional labor to be friends with. I am not going to tolerate people who don't understand or believe my explanations and continue to pressure me to re-contact her.

This fight was supposed to be mine, hers, and Doumierstar's alone. But she can't keep her mouth shut, so I have to say my piece. I have turned off comments and would like it if no responses to this are sent my way.

I know this note will find you, [Redacted]. I would like you and your entourage to leave me alone. Let us continue with both of our lives, and may our paths not cross again.

-Theta